I GAVE up everything for the sexiest girl I’ve ever known then found her in our bed with another man. She destroyed me emotionally and financially. Now I can’t even have sex.
I am 38. I was bullied as a kid, mostly by my stepdad, and whenever I feel someone getting close I push them away. I work hard but I have a destructive streak and have always taken risks to get a buzz.
I had it all for 10 years – wife, house, car, friends, the good life – but I wasn’t in love. I gave it all up for a girl I met through a client.
She was his PA and we went out for drinks to celebrate a deal. She was 26, tall and curvy – and irresistible.
We went on clubbing and knew we were going to end the night together. She was red hot.
Her boss warned me she was a tease but I loved her so much I let her get close to me, even though she already had three kids. I left my wife and gave this girl and her kids everything.
One day I had to go home from work ill, heard noises upstairs and found her and a man in our bed.
They laughed in my face that it had taken me so long to catch on. She said she had no intention of giving up her freedom to do what she wanted. I walked out that day. That was two years ago but I am still not over her.
I hadn’t had sex in a year until I met a nice lass last week, but when it came to it, I couldn’t even keep an erection. Where do I go from here?
DEIDRE SAYS
Your upbringing turned you into a risk-taker who finds it hard to get close emotionally, so it was on the cards you’d fall for a woman who had “Trouble” written all over her. She knocked your confidence and made you put up your barriers all over again.
Time to lay your personal demons to rest. Get help through the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk, 01455 883 300).
The “nice lass” might be very understanding so don’t write her out of your life just yet.
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http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/deidre/4754547/Deidre-Daily-Drama-I-found-my-red-hot-lover-in-bed-with-another-man.html